Objectification

Hello again! This is Shield Wife. I would like to start off by thanking everyone who subscribed to my channel and left encouraging comments on my last video. I originally wanted to reply to every comment personally, though I’m not sure I will have the time to. I did want to let you know that I read every one of them and I appreciate every comment even if I don’t reply.

Now, I would like to discuss another frequently used word that is nothing more than an expression of misandry. That word is objectification. What does this word even really mean? Well, it’s hard to say. I’ve noticed that feminists like to use words that are deliberately vague or the have shifting definitions so that it lets them better obscure their intentions or weasel their way through arguments. They claim that objectification is when a man turns a woman into an object. I think that it is more accurate to say that in almost every case the word used, it is meant not to express turning someone into an object, but rather to degrade male sexuality.

Objectification merely expresses a hatred and disgust for male sexual desires. It is a tool to try to shame men for having feelings which are entirely natural and benign.

Feminists complain that when a man sees a woman and feels attraction towards her, he is not seeing her as a complex human being, but instead merely seeing her through the lens of his own desires and his own ends. Thus, objectifying her.  Well, I have news for you, that happens all the time with the people we encounter in our daily lives, and it is not nearly as evil as feminists seem to want to paint it.

For example, when the pizza delivery guy brings me a pizza, that is usually the most important thing about him, at least to me. I can’t put that much thought into what his home life is like, how his parents treated him as a child, or if he is happy or sad with his life. I just want the pizza.

And honestly, there is nothing wrong with that. Just because I don’t fully appreciate the depth of humanity in each and every person I come across doesn’t mean that I have dehumanized them in my mind. It doesn’t mean that they are objects to me or that I would mistreat them. Along the same lines, if I see someone attractive, I might feel lust towards them while at the same time may not consider all of the complex things happening in that person’s life. That doesn’t degrade them in any way, doesn’t make them more of an object.

I mean, you could walk down a city street with a hundred people and not give too much thought to any single person, you might notice an old guy, maybe a policeman, and there might be a girl who is really hot. There is no reason to think that the pretty girl is less human in your mind than the old guy just because you are more attracted to her. And she is not an object just because you’re thinking about having sex with her, anymore than the policeman is an object because you worry he might give you a ticket.

The truth is that none of us can fully appreciate the humanity of people who are not intimately a part of our lives. So why does male attraction towards females get labelled as objectification? Because the idea of “objectification” expresses misandry in such a way that virtually every man is guilty, virtually every man can be shamed. Every man can be painted as someone with sociopathic tendencies, which is what viewing other people as objects really implies.

It is one of many ways that feminists seek to enforce a hypocritical double standard, where women can dress or act provocatively and reap the full benefits of doing so, but when men react in a way which is only natural, it is somehow wrong or oppressive. Also, accusations of objectification almost always pertain to how men primarily experience lust and desire: Visually. On the other hand, for sexual outlets that are usually feminine, the word hardly ever arises. For example, we often hear that pornography objectifies women, but we seldom hear about anyone being objectified by 50 Shades of Grey or other romance novels.

Feeling sexual attraction is entirely natural, humans are sexual creatures. There is nothing wrong with looking at a pretty girl and feeling attracted to her or, for that matter, looking at images of attractive women for the express purpose of gaining pleasure from it. When a movie has an attractive female lead or a commercial has a young woman in a bikini, some women condemn it as a cheap attempt to appeal to men. To which I say – what is wrong with trying to please men? Why is male sexuality seen with such negativity? Well, perhaps it is because there are such major undercurrents of misandry within our society as a result of feminism.

You may have noticed that a lot feminists these days describe themselves, at least if confronted with the topic, as sex positive feminists. I think that any woman who describes herself as being sex positive while believing in objectification, which means writing off half of the population as perverted sociopaths, is a hypocrite and not sex positive at all. More accurately, she is positive about her own sexuality and thinks that her attraction somehow mystically gauges the character of men – as I mentioned in my creepy video – while being able to dismiss the desires of men as base and degenerate.

This isn’t to say that there aren’t men out there who act inappropriately towards women, who use women for sex, or who are jerks. There are plenty of men who are immoral, just like there are plenty of women who are immoral and who exploit men. In fact, there are probably more women who exploit men, as our misandrist culture condones and facilitates it. In any case, the fact that bad people exist has nothing to do with male sexuality or the visual nature of their attraction.

Now, there is another side to objectification that feminists like to pretend doesn’t exist. And that is gay men. When the issue of gay men arises, feminists start becoming even more vague and try to change the subject. See, gay men don’t fit into the patriarchal objectification paradigm that feminists want to live in. They have a sexuality not that different from straight men in that they are highly visual, yet their attraction is directed towards other men. Does that mean that they see other men as nothing more than lowly sex objects? Does it mean that a man can look at someone lustfully without degrading that person? No, it can’t be that, then the entire objectification myth crumbles. So, it’s better just to avoid thinking about it too much, and luckily, not thinking is something that most feminists are pretty good at.

This is why I disregard any accusations of “objectification” in any kind of media. It generally just means that it has something in it that might appeal to a straight man. Feminists have created a term that makes men seem like sociopaths –you see, it dovetails into their conviction that all men are potential rapists. The same group of people who claim all the glory for the sexual revolution of the 60’s are trying as hard as they can to repress men’s sexuality, to shame them into only having the feelings that women give them permission to have.

That’s all for now. I have a couple more videos planned that will be posted in the weeks to come. Until then, don’t forget to subscribe, and if you’d like to support my channel, you can donate at my blog, which I’ll link below.

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Creepy Guys

Lately, I’ve been thinking about all of the misandry in our modern culture that seems to be so ubiquitous and yet completely accepted and unquestioned. Girl Writes What brings up a lot of excellent points regarding these issues, which is why I thought I would make my first video under this account as a response to her.

Anyway, there are two frequently used words that I feel essentially express misandry, a hatred of men, and I wanted to talk about both of them.

The first of these is the word creepy. Now, if you’re a woman like me, you have probably said this word numerous times and never gave it a second thought, you have probably encountered guys that just seemed off in some regard or that repulsed you on some level and thought of them or even referred to them, at least behind their backs, as being creepy. I know that I have called guys creepy or at least thought of them in that way, without really analyzing why.

Once I took the time to reflect a bit on the kind of guys who get called creepy and the kind who don’t, I decided that I would refrain from thinking of men as creepy and try to assess them on a more conscious level. Ultimately, I realized that being “CREEPY” has more to do with women’s emotional reactions to a man than anything wrong about his character.

Guys get called creepy not because the merit of their character on any kind of objective level. The reason a man is typically called a creep is because certain women find him unattractive, while the supposed creep finds those women attractive. Which is why the term is misandrist by its nature, because it projects danger, aggression, or nefarious motives onto a man for the sole reason of being found unattractive to women.

Some of you may be thinking that there is more to it than that, that creepy guys say scary things, act in weird ways, act in inappropriate ways. Sometimes certain inappropriate behaviors get labelled as creepy, but it usually has more to do with the guy who is saying or doing those things than the actions or words themselves. It you think back on the men you have encountered in you life, you can probably recall men who have been flirtatious or have even acted downright crudely, and because they were attractive or charismatic men, they didn’t seem creepy at all, but rather charming and sexy. You may also recall other men who were called creepy for far more benign behavior because they were socially inept or physically unattractive.

Women simply can’t concede that they find a man unattractive for shallow reasons, reasons which if your examined them, are no more enlightened than a man’s attraction towards big boobs or a shapely butt. So women elevate their own desires into some profound character judgement: they just know that this unsexy guy is really a serial killer, while this handsome charmer must have a heart of gold.

It relegates a man’s character to nothing more than what women think of him, of how pleasing he is to women, which is why the idea of creepiness, at least how it’s usually used, is so derogatory against men.

It also ties into all of the fury that feminists express about men propositioning women and the controversies over women dressing or acting provocatively. I mean, it is no secret to anyone with a bit of common sense that women have many things to gain by acting provocatively, by wearing sexy clothing, by flirting, by making sexual jokes or by making themselves seem available. They can gain not only a potential mate, but gain the positive attention and ego boost that this attention provides. In our modern culture where many taboos against that kind of behavior in women have disappeared, or at least heavily declined, there are fewer drawbacks for women acting in an overtly sexual way. Modern women can have their cake and eat it too.

This is where the “CREEPS” come in. There is one downside of flirtatiousness that has not been eliminated, the fact that a woman making a spectacle of herself in public doesn’t just gain the attention of hot guys, but also of men who she doesn’t find attractive. When an unattractive guy starts to express a romantic interest, that is when he becomes creepy in her eyes. That is when she turns her own shallow desires into a judgement of a man’s character, where she perceives his attraction toward her as creepy, and she interprets his expression of that attraction as hostility.

That is why Rebecca Watson became so offended when she was asked to go on a coffee date. You see, Rebecca Watson gives lectures at skeptics’ conferences. She has acted provocatively at conferences before this one–during one conference, there are pictures of her laughing with dollar bills stuffed down the front of her tank top.

But when a guy asked Rebecca Watson to have coffee with him at a conference, she became outraged. She announced, “it creeps me out and makes me uncomfortable when men sexualize me.”

She went on to say that she felt “THREATENED” by his advances and warned other men that this is not how you should treat women. If you want to learn more about Rebecca Watson’s hypocrisy, you should check out Thunderfoot’s video that I’ll link below.

So, because this poor guy creeps her out, he obviously must be dangerous, he must have bad intentions. Why is he creepy? Well, because she finds him unattractive. When a sexy guy flirts with her, it isn’t sexual harassment, it is empowering. Go ahead and stuff some more dollar bills down her bra. It is only when the unattractive or socially inept guys don’t behave like eunuchs that it becomes an unsafe space for women.

Now, there’s another word, in addition to creepy, that has become little more than an attack on men in our society. That word is objectification. I will discuss that term in my next video, so stay tuned.

Girl Writes What – http://youtu.be/a9XDb0nxSO4

Thunderf00t – http://youtu.be/cKKQdJR7F_I